Being parent is a tough job. Even if your child is a grown up, you still have to help him/her in a lot of things. And if there is more than one kid, you may feel occupied during the entire day. Furthermore, there are other household responsibilities such as laundry, kitchen, shopping, and bills etc. which tend to add much to your stress. Then you also need to connect with your partner because spousal relationship demands connection time. And if you are also doing a job, that could make your life even more difficult.
Now, as you try to get everything done you are responsible for, you should be surprised if you have forgotten about yourself entirely. You may even notice that you have a desire for something but you find yourself unable to fulfill it because you find it too much troubling after getting tired due to the workload. But your relaxation and fulfillment of desires and passions are as important as your responsibilities because if you are not focusing on self-care, you are actually becoming the opposite of positive parent.
So, there are a few things that you can do to ensure that you are not ignoring to care about yourself.
Check in with yourself while taking care of your child
You can give yourself attention by being present with yourself. If you are present with yourself, you will be a happy person whether you work outside the home or work inside by dealing with the children and household. But this is also the fact that most of us do not do this way. Instead, we tend to rush which makes things worse. The immediate effect of this rushing is that we get distracted. It is especially dangerous when it comes to parenting. Children are more likely to throw tantrums at the distracted parents in order to get their attention. But if we are ‘present’ in the scenario, the kids would like to follow us.
Now the question is how you can be present with yourself. Well, it’s all about calming yourself. Take a deep breath and feel the well-being flooding in you. Breathe the stress out.
Stop before walking into the house
The moment you are about to enter your home is the time when you can find yourself free of everything related to work and home. If this moment is gone and you are in your home, there will be a lot of things in front of you and you will be busy with them in the next moment. So, you can stop right there before entering the home and ask yourself about what you need. There can be a lot of things in your mind at that moment. But listen to the urgent need you would have at that time. Commit to yourself about fulfilling that need and decide the time for it.
There is a lot of content on how to parent a kid in the perfect way. You may wonder how well the parents are now raising their kids thanks to the information which is being shared. Now, you can apply these parenting tips to yourself in order to get nurtured while you are parenting your children. You will just have to remember that you need your attention and care along with the children.